It’s pretty easy to feel overwhelmed when you are a mum. There is this little person, or persons, that rely on you for absolutely everything. From wiping their bottoms to feeding them! That’s a big responsibility, and with great responsibility often comes overwhelm. Preventing this overwhelm is important, as many studies suggest that becoming a happier person yourself is key when raising a happy, successful child. That is why it’s so important to step back on occasion and make a little time and space to catch your breath.
My first choice on combatting mummy overwhelm is a bit dreamy. I would love to book in some much needed time away. Wanting a break isn’t a bad thing and I am investing in more time away from the kids. A spa break with my girlfriends or partner is an ideal way to recharge the batteries. Even better when you can get a good deal – taking away that guilt of spending from family finances!
Well yes, it can be tough to be away from the kids but it is really healthy to book in some time away. Firstly you can give yourself permission to have a whole night off where you are only responsible for yourself and can get a whole night of uninterrupted sleep. It’s amazing how much of difference to how you feel this can make.
If you can’t have time away from the home then another nice way of keeping yourself as soon as possible when you are a mum is to grant yourself a holi-hour. Now a whole hour might seem like a lot when you have a screaming toddler to wrangle or a new baby to fuss over, but raising kids is not a sprint. It’s more of a marathon! That means you have to pace yourself.
You can do this by setting aside one hour each day when your mum or partner can take the kids, and you can do something for yourself. This is the perfect chance in which to have some me time. Whether it’s checking your favourite blogs, having a relaxing bubble bath or catching up on that book you’ve been dying to read.
Remember it’s not a luxury, though, it’s a safety value that can help keep you happy, and so will have a positive effect on your family including the kids. Just try it and see.
Of course, it can be pretty tough to get any time to yourself when you are a mum. Sometimes even going to the toilet can mean you are accompanied by the kids, the cat09 and the dog! But a good way of dealing with this is to make some space in one room in the house that is just your own.
It is important that you can retreat to a space into even if it’s just for five minutes. As sometimes five minutes is all you need to regain your composure and prevent a meltdown situation.
How do you combat overwhelm?