It’s pretty easy to feel overwhelmed when you are a mum. There is this little person, or persons, that rely on you for absolutely everything. From wiping their bottoms to feeding them! That’s a big responsibility, and with great responsibility often comes overwhelm. Preventing this overwhelm is important, as many studies suggest that becoming a happier person yourself is key when raising a happy, successful child (which you can read more about in this article by Daniel Wong). That is why it’s so important to step back on occasion and make a little time and space to catch your breath. Read on to find out how you can do this
A nice way of keeping yourself as soon as possible when you are a mum is to grant yourself a holi-hour. Now a whole hour might seem like a lot when you have a screaming toddler to wrangle or a new baby to fuss over, but raising kids is not a sprint. It’s more of a marathon! That means you have to pace yourself.
You can do this by setting aside one hour each day when your mum or partner can take the kids, and you can do something for yourself. This is the perfect chance in which to have some me time. Whether it’s checking your favorite blogs, having a relaxing bubble bath or catching up on that book you’ve been dying to read.
Remember it’s not a luxury, though, it’s a safety value that can help keep you happy, and so will have a positive effect on your family including the kids. Just try it and see.
Of course, it can be pretty tough to get any time to yourself when you are a mum. Sometimes even going to the toilet can mean you are accompanied by the kids and the dog! But a good way of dealing with this is to make some space in one room in the house that is just your own.
You may have to have a clear out or put some item into storage facilities like the one run by Herts & Essex Removals. But that is a small price to pay to have a room, that you can retreat into even if it’s just for five minutes. As sometimes five minutes is all you need to regain your composure and prevent a meltdown situation.
Another way to prevent mummy overwhelm is to get as much sleep and rest as possible. Impossible! I hear you cry, when my two-year-old wakes up 5 times a night and doesn’t even get to sleep until 10 pm!
Well yes, it can be tough, but there is something you can do about this. Firstly you can give yourself permission to have a whole night off once in awhile. Allow your partner to do the night shift and pop some ear plugs in. Or even, stay at a friends house where you can get a whole night of uninterrupted sleep. It’s amazing how much of difference to how you feel this can make.
Secondly, you can work with some behaviour management techniques. These can help your child understand boundaries at bedtime. Yes, it will take a bit of work in the beginning, but it can help them to stay in their own bed more and grant you into getting much more unbroken sleep time.